Overcoming Imposter Syndrome is challenging, but doable. I’d be lying if I said I had never felt it and my guess is that you have, too. But, what is Imposter Syndrome? Imposter syndrome is the persistent feeling of self-doubt and fear of being exposed as a fraud, despite evidence of competence and success. It’s a common experience, affecting professionals across various fields, especially women. I have worked with a lot of clients who bring this sentiment. The good news is that imposter syndrome can be overcome, allowing you to own your achievements and believe in yourself fully. Here’s a guide to help you on this journey.
Understanding Imposter Syndrome & Acknowledge Your Feelings
Imposter syndrome isn’t a reflection of your abilities or accomplishments. It’s a psychological pattern that manifests through self-deprecating thoughts and unwarranted feelings of inadequacy. Recognizing that imposter syndrome is a common struggle shared by many successful people can be the first step towards overcoming it. Be honest with yourself about your feelings of self-doubt and inadequacy – and know that it’s ok. This acknowledgment can lessen the power these feelings hold over you. Notice when it’s happening. Are there specific triggers? Are you in specific places? With specific people or groups of people? Is it only when you’re doing something new or does it come up without warning or patterns? Understanding patterns can help you prepare or avoid triggering situations. I have talked with many coachees who bring the challenge of imposter syndrome, and while it takes effort to remove it, it is possible. And once removed, it can open doors to more personal and professional fulfillment as well as create a path to ongoing achievement.
Reframe Your Thoughts & Record Your Accomplishments
Challenge negative self-talk by reframing your thoughts. When you catch yourself thinking, “I don’t belong here,” or “I’m not good enough,” counter these thoughts with positive affirmations like “I earned this” or “I’m the expert”. Remind yourself of your achievements, qualifications, and the hard work you’ve put in to reach your current position. Maintaining a record of your achievements can serve as a tangible reminder of your success. Whether it’s a journal, a digital document, or a collection of notes and emails, regularly review this record to reinforce your self-worth and capabilities. Celebrating your victories, both big and small, can help shift your focus from self-doubt to self-confidence. Believe that you are good enough, because you are.
Embrace Your Unique Journey
Everyone’s career path is unique, filled with different experiences and challenges. Avoid comparing yourself to others, as this can exacerbate feelings of inadequacy. Instead, focus on your individual journey and the progress you’ve made. Embrace the uniqueness of your experiences, which contribute to your personal and professional growth. I believe in the value of embracing our own unique journeys so much, that a colleague and I are working on a podcast called “Success Your Own Way” which will be launching over the next few months. I encourage you to tune in to hear from others on their unique journeys and how they have achieved success in their own ways.
Set Realistic Goals
Setting realistic and achievable goals can prevent feelings of overwhelm and inadequacy. One framework that can be used is SMART when setting goals. Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-Bound. Break down larger tasks into manageable steps and celebrate your progress along the way. Achieving your goals can boost your confidence and provide a sense of accomplishment, so setting them well is key.
Practice Self-Compassion
Be kind to yourself and recognize that nobody is perfect. Everyone makes mistakes and experiences setbacks. Practicing self-compassion involves treating yourself with the same kindness and understanding that you would offer to a friend. This approach can reduce self-criticism and promote a healthier self-image.
Cultivate a Support Network & Seek Feedback and Validation
Surround yourself with a supportive network of peers, mentors, and friends who understand and can empathize with your struggles. Sharing your experiences with others can alleviate feelings of isolation and provide encouragement and reassurance. Constructive feedback from coaches, colleagues, mentors, and supervisors can provide valuable insights and boost your confidence. Don’t hesitate to seek validation from those you trust. Their perspectives can help you see yourself more objectively and appreciate your strengths and accomplishments. And then when they tell you you’re doing a great job, believe them! You can trust these colleagues to tell you if you’re failing (in a gentle way, of course) and you can also trust them to tell you when they are proud of your efforts and results.
Seek Help from a Coach
Overcoming imposter syndrome is a journey that requires self-awareness, reflection, and proactive steps. By acknowledging your feelings, reframing negative thoughts, and embracing your achievements, you can gradually build confidence in yourself and your capabilities. Remember, you deserve to own your success and believe in your worth. Embrace your journey and celebrate your unique contributions to the world. If imposter syndrome is impacting your mental health and well-being, consider seeking professional help. Coaches can provide strategies and support to help you navigate and overcome these feelings. Please reach out if you would like to talk more about how coaching can help overcome imposter syndrome and live the life you deserve.
